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You can find a lot of books about parenting, but many of them are just pop psychology, the solitary opinion of the author.Gottman is definitely not one of them. As a supplement, I can also recommend the book by M. Actively listen to your child and validate the feelings4.
This book presents the essence of his research findings about raising emotionally intelligent children.His advise is surprisingly easy and is based on a 5 step model:1. Help your child solve problems, while setting clear limitsGottman clearly explains how you can implement this 5-step-model in daily life and what to do when problems arise. He is known as one of the leading psychologists in the area of family and marriage psychology.
Help your child to verbalize his feelings5. Be aware of your child's emotion2. See your child's emotions as an opportunity to be close together3.
His real life examples make reading really fun.All in all, an excellent parenting book. Seligman: "The optimistic child"
This audio book has opened my eyes to what children are really thinking and how to deal with them. I have tried the recommended ideas with my own daughter and it has worked wonders. It can be difficult at first, but with patience, these ideas will create a bond between you and your child that you may not have known could exist.
My parents were loving, but didn't really know how to handle the problem. The book also identifies four "parenting styles" - two of these styles react negatively to chldren's negative emotions, one style accepts them but doesn't help the child deal with them, and the "Emotion Coaching" style accepts the emotions and teaches the child what to do with them.
A combination of important traits (including self-discipline, ability to handle anger appropriately, self-esteem, empathy, and social skills), emotional intelligence allows one to handle life's frustrations and to "work and play well with others." These skills have been shown as more important than I.Q. "Emotional Intelligence" has recently been recognized as an important life skill.
The book sees children's problems and frustrations as opportunities for "emotion coaching" - helping them learn how to deal with their emotions. as predictors of success in one's personal relationships and career.
This wonderful book teaches parents how to raise their children to have emotional intelligence. I wish my parents had had this book - I was a "difficult" child, prone to tantrums, etc., but much of my difficulty came from feeling frustrated and not knowing what to do about it.
This book will create greater understanding between parent and child, and will help the child grow up to be an emotionally healthy adult.
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